In aggression, we make the other person responsible like 'I'm angry because you did.' This has a toxic affect on the relationship and, underneath, the angry partner doesn't feel like they have the right to have their needs met. In assertiveness, we stay responsible for ourselves and ask for what we need. Lack of assertive communication - aggression is not assertiveness. Negative self-talk which usually shows up in extremes like 'this relationship is a complete failure' or self-defeating thinking like 'I will never be able to get this right.' You Give in to Avoid Outbursts - giving in is out of fear not out of love for your partner.īelittling a partner by minimising and humiliating them - this is character assassination and it is poisonous to all relationships.
Aggression that you experience in multiple forms including emotional, verbal, bullying, throwing things, punching walls, and passive-aggression.ĭifficulty Enjoying Activities or carrying out tasks together because unresolved issues lead to anger between you.
